I think it was instilled in me while growing up that it was ideal to have a loving family. But being Chinese - well, it wasn't as evident as one that you would see in a 'normal' family. When I say normal, I refer to those we see on TV and in the people we encounter. I know it's quite silly to refer to the boobtube - but seriously, it was where I saw families loving each other the most. It was very ideal, but in reality - I think as much as we would like things to be 'loving' there are so many things that get in the way. My parents were never affectionate, as most Chinese parents are. They never told me 'I love you' nor did they hug me. I knew they were very proud of me but they never said it to me. I think I was hungry for those words of affirmation - but I never got them. Instead, what I got were not so positive words. I realized now that they were doing the reverse psychology thing on me. And I have to say - there were pros and cons. But
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