Thursday, March 26, 2015

That Thing Called Tadhana

I have admitted time and time again that I like Pinoy movies.

But I am choosy in picking which flick to watch.

There are certain actors/actresses that I like and dislike on screen.  So that pretty much sums up what I choose to watch.

For the past weeks and months, I have been seeing posters of the movie *That thing called Tadhana*



I've been wanting to watch it BUT I don't have anyone to watch it with.

Nope, my Panget refuses to watch with me - and I respect that.

So along comes this Facebook thread - an online friend apparently has a copy and is able to *drop* it for me.

I have it in less than an hour.

WONDERFUL!

And so I watched it.

So, where do broken hearts go?

I don't know.

But I remember - the heartbreak that I felt years ago.  I was broken.  I was shocked.  I was hurt.  I was depressed.  I cut my hair.  I made a change.  They said it was the best revenge.  Was it?  Well, I don't know.  I guess, I was able to move on.  I enjoyed my *single-ness*.  I met a few fellows - liked them, but I guess - they weren't really for me.  And then I vowed to myself that I would stop looking for the one.

Then I meet, my Panget.

It was true what they say - that when you stop looking, *he* comes along.

What made me fall in love with him?  I think I wrote about it before - he reads books.  All kinds of books.  But what was the *benta* moment?  Well, he made me read Erich Segal's *Love Story*.  I've never read it but I did.  So that made me think - why, not?!  Hahaha..

And the rest they say is history.

But what made me really want to watch the movie was the reason that the two characters travelled to Sagada.  Well, Sagada has a special place in my heart because - it was where Panget proposed.  Hahaha!!

Back to the movie.

I have to say this - Angelica is not someone I really like to watch on screen but she's very likeable in this movie.  She's not OA but was actually very natural.  JM de Guzman - I have been a fan of - but only in movies, ha.  He's been a supporting role - but he always, always makes me laugh.  He has the talent - kulang lang sa *push* ng network.

So I felt the sincerity of the movie.  It was very simple and realistic.  I really enjoyed their conversations - especially the *hiritan* portion.  It was so natural and so real.  I mean, I know that it's *reel* but they acted very naturally that it shows the *real* scene and emotion that the script wanted to put forth.

My eyes watered when the reached they mountain.  When Mace was screaming out her anger, her pain and frustration.  RAMDAM KO yung sakit niya - I felt the pain and I felt the release, it was intense for me to say the least.  I was crying - I knew what that felt like.  I've so wanted to do that before - but wala eh.  I think I understood what she felt that moment, the heaviness and the burden of the hurt.  And Anthony just stood there - just waiting for her to finish.  Haaaa... here we go again with the *ideal man*.  He just watched her and let her be.

I think most everyone would have wanted to get away after a break-up.  Sort of like to get away and escape the situation, for a moment  No, it's not being afraid and escaping - but is more of re-grouping and figuring out what to do next and healing.  A lot of people think that getting away is a waste of time -but honestly - I believe it helps.  Being away from everything gives you room to think, it gives you space - it frees you from things familiar, it gives you perspective.  It makes you be able to breathe and think without distractions.

The movie gives us a glimpse of how certain people respond to break-ups.

I agree - it's really a HUGOT movie..

But man, I super felt that I was tricked because the ending was open ended.

Hahahahaha!!!

But kudos to the script writer and the director.

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

We aim to please: the movie version+ Bluray Unrated release

Update:  03/25/2015 - and I was just talking about the uncut version.  The official DVD will be released in May 2015 - Digital copies on May 1 and BluRay ones on May 8!!

Sneak peak?  Scroll to the end of the post!!

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So last weekend, I finally got a copy of the movie Fifty Shades of Grey.  Nope, not a blurry copy.  It was a clear copy - when you view it on the laptop.  Hooked it up on the TV and it was okay - not the HD copy that I'm used to.  There were was no blurring on the *sensitive* parts of the movie.  Well, it was an *uncut* copy, so....





Was it just me?  But, I found the movie rushed.  But I guess 2 hours wasn't really enough to cover the whole book.  I felt bad for the movie though, because it could have been much more!  I wish though that there was more of the *talking* than the sex.  But that's just me.  Hahaha!!  Am I KJ?  I guess so.  The book was filled with dialogue exchange that made me *kilig*.  Of course, you know how real men are - they're not very talkative or expressive of their feelings, so the book was a bit out there making us women swoon because Christian Grey emails and texts - lengthily.  Hahaha!!

Most people who saw the movie found that there was no chemistry between the actors who played Christian and Anastasia - but I beg to differ.  I think they were perfect for the role.  My Panget commented that Dakota was not very pretty, well she was - but she looked lost in some scenes, and that she looked weird at times.  I told Panget that, that was the character of Anastasia, she's supposed to be awkward - look it at times and feel it at times.  But you'll see in the movie how her character developed.  She became prettier and desirable.  As for Jamie Dornan - I remember him from Once Upon A time - all scruffy looking with his beard - and in the movie, he was clean shaven.  There were some scenes that you can see the hair growth - it was nice.  He looked really good.  I think he was skinny in Once Upon a Time - here he was buffed.  Okay, I'll admit - he looked hot.  There I said it!  Hahaha..  I liked seeing them on screen together - bagay.

Everyone assumed that the movie was going to be very steamy.  And it was (since I saw the uncut version) - it was all about their sexual relationship - well the book was also like that.  But as I said - I would have preferred more dialogue - more of the exchange more of the *I miss that smart mouth* but instead it was very visual, but I guess - since it's the movie - everything needs to be graphic.  To be honest, I found their sex scenes to be exaggerated.  Be honest!  Hahaha - it was to turn us all on.  But I had to wince at times especially scenes in the playroom.  My Panget saw the ice cube part and declared *Nakita ko na yan!  Merong ganyan sa 9-1/2 weeks!*  It made me think - what was 9-1/2 weeks?  I had to google it.  Well, it was a steamy movie that was released in 1986 - and it was of the same nature - very sexual.  For short - it was the Fifty Shades of Grey during his time.  Hahahaha!!  So for him, what he was seeing wasn't very new, I mean the idea wasn't very new.

Whenever Anastasia was in the playroom - I felt sorry for her!  I felt sorry for Dakota Johnson because she had to be spanked, whipped and tied!  I felt sorry for her.  After seeing those scenes, I knew why Melanie Griffith wasn't interested to see the movie - who would want to see their daughter that way.  I found Dakota too thin too.  I wish though that her boobs were bigger - to which my Panget countered *Di bale, sexy naman!*  Men.  Hahaha!!  I admire though, that she was very cool, collected and brave to have stripped down for the cameras - for Jamie Dornan!

Sooooo, what were the parts that I liked?  Here they are, in no particular order:

-  The Christia Grey closet!  I looks like a store!  Hahaha...  So organized!!!  BUT but but, parang wala namang may ganyang ka-orgnanized na closet!  hahaha...

-  The Plum dress - it was very pretty!  I wish she wore that dress instead of the pink haltered one.  Hahaha!!  She looked so sophisticated that I wanted to see more of her wearing that dress.  (In the book I think she wore it a couple of times!)  Her whole look was fantastic and the heels!  She looked perfect!  (I realized that when you wear heels - iba ang dating eh..)

-  The Charlie Tango scene.  OMG - I told my Panget - who wouldn't fall for a guy who drives a helicopter and flies you to his place??  The song choice too was a winner too!  I didn't know what the song was and what the effect was - but whoever picked that particular song to match the scene - you deserve a double thumbs up!  This particular scene made me smile from ear to ear.

-  The day after the vomit scene.  When Christian enters the suite all sweaty and then he takes his shirt off.  Winner.  I asked my Panget why guys take off their shirts that way - he said *It's the easiest way!* - Okay.  Hahaha!!  And before he takes off his shirt, he hands Anastasia some bread and then before that when Anastasia asks where he slept - and he pointed where.  The expression on his face.

-  *Because I'm fifty shades of fucked up* scene.  Ahhhh, I loved that so much!  I can't explain it but I was so kilig with that scene and that particular line.  Hahaha!!

-  *Christian, I can't walk that fast in these heels!*  and then Christian carries her across his shoulder and spanks her.  It was cute - I found it really funny.  Weird ba?

-  Opening scene of Christian Grey on a run with a hoodie.  Hahaha!! Very mysterious!  Hihi..



I found some scenes a bit lost or bitin - especially when Anastasia was trying to be funny and cute.  It lacked building up?  I don't know.  I was hoping that Jamie Dornan would dance, but I guess - God is fair, he looks good but in the dancing department - nah..

Obviously - the movie was *bitin* - the same as the book.  Hahahaha!!  So I'm assuming the sequel will be released on Valentines day next year.  Hahahahaha!!

Also, I found all of the secondary characters to be flat.  Sayang though.  Hahaha!!  Elliot looked too rugged and dirty in my opinion.  Mia was only on screen for like 5minutes?  Hahaha!!  I adore Marcia Gay Harden - and would have wished she had more scenes with Christian Grey and Anastasia.  Taylor - he was the dakilang extra!

Panget would look at me from time to time while watching the movie.  He asked me why I was smiling.  I told him *Kilig eh!*  Hahaha..


Here is the *teaser* of the DVD release.


Friday, March 20, 2015

Starbucks Relief Mugs Philippine Edition

They're here!!

Look at how nice they look!  And I love that they're 16oz.!

These mugs will be available starting Monday - March 23, 2015!!











I honestly wondered why they're called Relief mugs!  I assumed that they were made to raise awareness or for charitable purposes.

Well, apparently - it's called Relief mug because:


These babies cost P550.00 a pop.
(If you purchase them in NAIA 1 - they're P625.00)

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Love and Respect

I learned something new last night.

Women/Wives need LOVE to give respect.
Men/Husbands need RESPECT to give love.

These are two simple sentences but the impact is huge.  I never thought of it that way.  But then listening to the video of a certain doctor pastor, well - it hit close to home.  And I agree, as a woman/wife - I need LOVE to give respect.  Whenever I don't feel loved or appreciated, I respond or react in a way that I disrespect.  It makes sense when you think about it.  Men, when they don't feel respected are unable to show the feeling of love to their spouses.

I am thankful that I have a friend who made sure that I attended her D-group session.  To be honest, I wanted to go, but half of me was feeling otherwise.  Maybe because I don't have a partner with me to share the insights?  But then, I still chose to go.  I drove myself to my friend's house - and I think that simple act (of driving) made me realize that I really wanted to go.  Otherwise, I would have made up an excuse not to go.  I'm glad that I went because I learned a lot.

Men and women are different.  I realized this long ago when I read the book Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.  I understood that men are wired differently and women respond differently too.  So I absorbed the learning and I think it helped me in my relationship with my Panget.  There were rough patches, but I think what helped me was that I wasn't controlling or the jealous type,  nor was I over protective of him.  We gave one another space and that set up worked to our advantage.

But when we got married - it was so different.  We saw each other 24/7.  It was weird at first since I was used to the set up of seeing him during the weekends only.  But what was I to do, this is what marriage was all about - seeing and being with each other 24/7.  Truth be told, we've just had a handful of fights.  Yes, we argue, we disagree, I get irritated with him and he with me - but it never went as big like a shouting match.  I've kept my cool with crying (as I always do) I've kept quiet.  I've swallowed my pride and agreed to things I don't normally agree on.  I've made compromises and sacrifices, but there are times that I question myself - is it all worth it?  And I honestly hate feeling like that - questioning myself.  But it happens.  And when it happens - I just close my eyes, breathe and try my very best to have faith (that it's all worth it)  It's so hard - but I need to do it, or else - if I lose hope, it will just go downhill from there.  I need to be positive.  I need to.

Of course, I'm speaking for myself - I have no clue on what Panget feels as you know, men don't like discussing their feelings.  They feel less *macho* when they talk about their feelings.  But what I've realized with these sessions is that - not all men shy away from saying that they feel.  And I have to be honest - I am so envious of the wives whose husbands tell them or communicate to them what they feel.  Why?  Because it makes relationships a LOT easier!  I have learned from the #BetterMe sessions how words are powerful and how communication is really important and so it's really hard to communicate with someone who listens but doesn't respond.  It's really frustrating.  But then if he's built that way - then I have to adjust.

I remember my MIL telling me to *love & accept* my Panget for who he is.  And I am proud to say that from Day 1 - I have never tried to change him.  Why should I?  There are things that I want him to change, but no amount of convincing, pep talking or bribing would work.  So why even bother?  So when my MIL told me to convince my Panget to attend a D-group, I felt so bothered.  It was as if the burden of him going was solely based on me now, since I am the wife.  As I have said - I've respected his decision not to go - so why should I try and convince him more?  Trying to convince him more would mean that he would be irritated and say that I'm nagging him.  I in turn would feel unloved when he decides not to attend.  The cycle is vicious and the consequences of this *trying to convince*  thing is disastrous.  So I left things at that - I just prayed that someday, he will want to attend.  As I've always believed things will eventually fall into place - *in God's own time*.  But then my MIL would tell me that I wasn't doing anything, that my efforts were not enough, it's hard - it's painful.  Instead of encouraging and telling me that *he will eventually come around* I felt that she was saying indirectly *hindi ka magaling mag-convince* and then she'd compare the situation to another person.  It's really hurtful.  It seems that the blame goes to me, it's short of saying if things go sideways - then I am the only one to blame, because I did not convince enough.  I know she means well, but I guess the delivery needs to be improved.  Her heart is in the right place, but the communication - the words, the delivery was a bit - you know, amiss.

Those who know me, know that I am a very practical person.  So I (personally) believe that when one is unhappy - everything is affected thus, you won't be able to function well.  And if there are people around you who are drawing from your energy, leadership and guidance - well they'll be very much affected - they'll be unhappy.  I will say - change, leave, do something that makes you happy, shift your focus just to make yourself happy.  Because when you are happy - there is a chain reaction.  Everything will be better, you will see things differently, everything seems bright and happy.  A perfect example would be - when we're happy, sad love songs don't hold much meaning.  But when we're heartbroken or hurting - the words of a sad love song cuts through bones and stabs us in the heart.  So I try and be happy, looking at the positive when things aren't cheery and happy.  I always tell myself *God has his reasons* for everything.

Going back - each of us has needs.  But the question is - how do we fill in that need and nourish it?  Everyday is a test - of how we will react to certain situations.  But I'm glad to have been enlightened to LOVE and RESPECT.  I now know better, now I understand better.  But still - communication is important.  It's like driving blind, you rely on good communication to get you through without hitting bumps on the road.

Thanks K for inviting me to attend.  I appreciate it very much.

Saturday, March 07, 2015

Play with Oreo at the Fun Farm, Sta. Elena

I am not an out of town person.

Well, I used to be - but since having kids, well - I have to admit, the novelty of going out of town was gone.  I disliked the packing and unpacking - and since kids need more stuff, and I'm a trooper of always being *prepared* - I get a bit cuckoo.

But then I realized, time away from the city and the comforts of home, going some place outside of town is - wonderful and re-energizing.  The bonding is more natural, it makes me appreciate what I have.  I get to see my kids in a whole new light and enjoy their company without distractions.  I now finally understand the meaning of the saying *Stop and smell the roses*.

Last week was our first time to visit the Fun Farm at Sta. Elena.  I was skeptical at first since I'm not what you call an outdoor-sy mom.  Thankfully - the weather was perfect, it was not as hot and the wind was cool - I was amazed at the size, it was huuuuuge!  I was half expecting it to be small, but it was big.  I was also expecting the place to be crowded - but the management was able to control the number of guests (you need to book ahead - they don't accept walk-ins, I think this is a great idea - to be able to manage a good sized crowd).  It was perfect!

There was a play area that has a zipline for kids, a sand box with slides, rabbit and hamster feeding, horseback riding and a carabao with a cart that goes around the area.  There were small horses and lots of grass areas for the kids to walk and run and have a picnic.  It was very outdoor-sy!  It was back to basics - there were picnic tables and shaded areas that were spread out perfectly!  I like that they made the areas scattered - so you can have some privacy with your group.

(Thank you so much Michelle of My Mom Friday for the pictures below!)

Here is Connor enjoying the sand with his Kuyas and Ates




Look at those red rosy cheeks!



Connor loves animals.  I realized this when we went to Hotel Kimberly last year.  He is not afraid of animals and enjoys interacting with them.  When he first saw the carabao, he immediately wanted to go sit on the cart - but then the carabao started moving, he got scared and wanted to get out!  I guess, it was something new to him.  We then walked around and saw the other kids feeding the hamsters and rabbits!  Connor was given carrot sticks by Miguel (Mish's son) and without batting an eyelash, fed them to the hamsters!  It was so natural to him!  Connor looked so cute pushing the small carrot sticks into the screen mesh to feed the hamsters.  Then, I showed him the rabbits and he also fed the rabbits!  He was so enjoying himself that he kept on asking for more carrot sticks!  I wanted to show him around so we walked to where the small horses were, but then he kept wanting to go back and feed the hamsters, so we did.  It warms my heart so much to see him enjoying and having fun.  At least I know that he is an animal lover!




Here is Connor inside the hamster pen with Ate Gelli and Kuya Miguel



Connor is one boy that you need to reason with to share.  I need to talk to him and give him a reason to share, but look at him here!  He is offering Oreos!  I was shocked to see this!  I guess, he was too happy with the animal feeding that he too wanted to share his Oreos to someone else!





I am very competitive - yes, I just don't admit to it, but I am.  Hahaha!  So I like joining games.  And so, when volunteers were asked for the game, I stood up immediately.  We had an Oreo stacking game using - chopsticks!  Coooooooool!  We had a very smart team leader that was instrumental to our win - Miguel!  He taught us *strategy*, very very clever!  We had a group of 3moms and 4 kids - and we all enjoyed the game so much!

Here we are getting ready to #PlaywithOreo



And here is the winning team of #PlaywithOreo stacking game! Woohooo!!



Oreo is definitely one of the snacks that I pack whenever we go out (and out of town/country) - why?  Simply because the kids love it - and I love it too!  It's the easiest snack that I can pack that has a dual purpose!  It's such an easy snack to love and carry around - I love that they've come out with snack packs.

 I have fond memories of Oreos growing up and I'm so happy to see my kids enjoying this well loved snack as well.  Not only are Oreos for eating, you can also enjoy playing with them like what we did at the Fun Farm in Sta. Elena.  This #PlaywithOreo experience actually made me realize how much fun they are to eat and play with.

I know it's not yet officially *Summer* but I am so looking forward to having more #PlaywithOreo moments with my Kailee and Connor.  The possibilities are endless!

Before, I forget - there's a new Oreo flavor in town - the Oreo Strawberry!  And since its PINK - Kailee would for sure enjoy with newest flavor.  There's really something with pinks - I am drawn to them too!  Hahahaha...

Click this link to view the #PlaywithOreo video!

Enjoooooooy!!

Thank you to Lawrence del Mundo and Michelle of My Mom Friday for the photos!!!



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